Howard Seeman

Certified Life-Coach+
Experienced Parent Coordinator
Education Consultant

• M.A., Ph.D., C.L.C., Professor Emeritus, Lehman College, City University of NY
• Master of Arts, New School for Social Research, NYC, January 1970
• Certified, Licensed Teacher of Social Studies in High School & Middle School, New York City, February 1971
• Certified, Licensed Teacher of English in High School & Middle School, New York City, July 1971
• Certification in The Association for Poetry Therapy, October 1971
• Certified Member of The Association for Specialists in Group Work, February 1975
• Certified Member of The American Association for Counseling and Development, September 1975
• Member of the American Psychological Association, January 2020
• Ph.D. in epistemology, existential philosophy and social psychology from the New School For Social Research, New York City, 1980
• Certified Life Coach, Certified Life Coach Institute (Credly Badge), March 2013
• Soon publishing his 6th book:     (click to view)
• Organizer/Coordinator, New York Life Coaching Meetups, August 2016
• Member of the Columbia University Seminar on Innovation in Education
• Member of the American Society of Group Psychotherapy and Psychodrama, where he was awarded the title: "Fellow" of the Society for his outstanding work in the field, April 1978
• Has extensive experience leading Support Groups, including Poetry Therapy Groups, and teaching this modality (especially using action-methods in groups and classrooms) to other helping professionals
• Was a psychotherapist for individual clients and led therapy groups with Dr. Dan Wiener and Dr. Karen Beatty under NYAPS (New York Associates for Psychotherapy Services) during the early 1980s
• Holds Certification in the Training of Prevention of School Violence and Intervention, United Federation of Teachers, 2006
• Founder / Supervisor of Instruction at Classroom Management Online
• Taught classroom management, educational psychology, course-content methods, and supervised teachers and student teachers at C.U.N.Y. since 1970
• Taught course for educating teachers in: Alcohol, Tobacco and Drugs, 1977-1981 at Lehman College, C.U.N.Y.
• Assistant Director of Addiction Services Agency's Teacher Training Program, NYC, 1969
• His book: Preventing Classroom Discipline Problems; A Classroom Management Handbook K-12 is used in more than 45 states in the U.S., and in more than ten countries and international schools
• Also recently published: Preventing Disruptive Behavior in Colleges; A Campus and Classroom Handbook for Higher Education
• Published over 20 articles in professional journals on education, counseling, philosophy, and psychology, and a major contributor to online education publications and resources
• See Reviews From Teacher Trainers, Reviews From Educators Who Took This Course, and Reviews From Professional Journals

CLIENTS HE HELPS*

Who advises you the most? You!
Learn better headlights for driving your life

• Anxieties, Fears, Worries: Help with calming these, understanding what they really are about, and where they come from… to feel more confident, relaxed and sleep better.
• Couples/Partners: Help with dating, recent couples/partners, marriage difficulties, communication problems, conflict resolution, angers, dissatisfactions in the relationship, improving the sexual relationship, parenting issues.
• Handling the Loss of a Loved One: Bereavement, grieving is emotionally painful, and often also affects our physical health as well. But, you can get to a place that carries this loss easier, and go on with your life, with this loved one even with you "in your back pocket." I can help you through this process; I have been through it myself.
• Helping the Dying: If you are terminally ill, I can help you down this road with less emotional pain about: leaving, regrets, unresolved angers and goals, feeling alone… We can take a lot of the pain out of dying…. The latter we all have to do, but we can do it well.
• Emotional Upsets Regarding Medical Issues: Often emotional issues potentiate medical problems. And medical problems cause additional emotional problems. Support and help to best handle and/or diminish these.
• Education Help for Students K-12 and parents, and college students: Homework, falling grades, managing "screen time", cell phone use, behavior problems, bullying, term papers, study habits, tutoring, SAT exams, college applications/essays....
• Writing/Editing Help; Getting Published: Learning to write better and self-edit better -- for school, college, employers and/or to self [or traditional] publish one's own work, prose or poetry. (Can all be done via email and/or attached files.)
• Those struggling with important decisions: Regarding work, personal life, dating, parenting, transitions, career, education, family, re-locating.
• Want To Stop Smoking? Help, Support and Coaching to stop smoking, either cold-turkey (all at once) or gradually withdrawing from the habit. (Perhaps also with others in a small support group.)
• Stressed; Anger Management: Stress and Anger Management Reduction, Coping Skills. The latter are causing you to miss sleep, have temper outbursts… affecting your children, clients, your personal and professional life.
• Those Dating: Whether using online dating or in person, dating is an anxious, difficult task and important: Choosing correctly, not being rejected, what to say? when? satisfying each other's needs/wants, without losing yourself…etc. Handling the sexual interactions, and help for building a supportive, caring, relationship.
• Improve Sexual Satisfaction: Good sex is not only enjoyable but good for your health. Here is help for mutual, non-selfish, sexual love making. How to talk about it with your partner so that the negative, non-spoken feelings do not slowly diminish your relationship. You can get help either by coming alone, or with your partner.
• Struggling to lose weight: Often some of the problem is also "emotional" needs, where we feed the wrong "hole", for example, eat when we are lonely. We also need support to do what we are trying to do.
• Recovering Alcoholics/Addictions: Those who have now been able to be sober and want help/support to maintain their recently new healthier life style.
• Stressed Helping Professionals: Doctors, nurses, therapists, counselors, teachers…. We helpers also need help; with the stress of being for others all day, while holding in and managing our own all-too-human reactions. We need places to express feelings not appropriate to express on our jobs, help sorting these out confidentially, with a consultant and with other helping professionals with similar feelings/concerns.
• Parents/Children: Difficulties regarding parenting children: sleep problems, behavior problems at home/school; bullying; education and homework/testing issues; the best way to handle sibling conflicts; scheduling, managing "screen time", cell phone use, and disagreements among the parents.
• Teachers/School Administrators: Help solving classroom disruptive behavior, "turned-off" students, teachers in need of more training.
• He also teaches private piano lessons; was a professional musician and teacher for many years.

• Separation/Divorce Recovery: Renewing one's life and social connections, dealing with the losses, anger-anxiety, dating again, resultant difficulties with one's children....
• Feeling Lonely: Support/ help for making friends / supportive relationships, boosting self-esteem, meeting needs better, self-clarification, finding social fulfillment and ways out of boredom.
• Procrastinators and Time-Management: Help meeting goals, getting organized, motivated, too many balls to juggle, retraining out of bad habits, overcoming blocks.
• Falling into Drugs/Alcohol: Due to recent upset, trauma, loss, or conflict. Starting to use too much…for reward, sleep, tranquilizer, recent stress.
• Want Help with Professional Presentations/Workshops.
• Looking for a Support Group of neighbors nearby who share similar above concerns.

*This service is not medical, nor psychotherapy. It partners with the client for better navigation of one's personal/professional life.

The Life-Coaching Agreement

Fees

I do not work with insurance so fees are low, on a sliding scale, and may be tax-deductible as an education consultant or a business expense (an appropriate invoice is available). Sessions are strictly confidential. Fees due before each session via PayPal to: [email protected] or use Venmo: @Howard-Seeman

In person at my home-office in Wellington, Florida, or via Zoom, or Google Meet, or consult via email

Endorsements

"I am a licensed Psychologist, Marriage and Family Therapist (MFT) and Drama Therapist with thirty-four years of professional experience. For the past fifteen years I have worked as a professor at Central Connecticut State University, where I have supervised and taught more than 300 therapists/counselors in a graduate MFT program.

Throughout these past thirty-five years, I have also had the pleasure, benefit of knowing and working with, and learning from, Prof. Howard Seeman. We have also published and co-presented professionally. Also, on numerous occasions I have sought consultation with him on a variety of clinical and teaching issues. Prof. Seeman has unfailingly offered superb insights to my personal and professional life, drawing on his wealth of experience, keen intellect and sound judgment.

As someone who knows a lot about "helping," I can attest to the value of Prof. Seeman's assistance. If you are a helping professional, e.g., therapist, counselor, teacher, or parent, I recommend him to you; you will find great benefit from his counsel regarding the interface of your personal life with your professional helping concerns."

Prof. Daniel J. Wiener, Ph.D., ABPP, RDT/BCT

+He also has the following training from:

• Couple's therapy from the American Institute for Psychotherapy and Psychoanalysis, Spring 1982.
• Over 3,000 hours of experience in Group Support Processes and Psychodrama, and The Creative Arts Therapies at The Institute for Sociotherapy, NYC from 1969-1982 with individuals, poetry-therapy, diet, support and couple's groups, and as co-director of a camp for emotionally disturbed children - with Robert W. Siroka, Ph.D.; Dr. Gilbert Schloss; Ellen K. Siroka, Ed.D.; Jean Peterson, LCSW, ATR-BC, T.E.P.; David Wallace, M.S.W.; Dominick Grundy, Ph.D.
• 1,000 hours of the above was successfully completed training in Psychodrama, Sociometry, and Group Methods with Robert W. Siroka, Ph.D. at this Institute for Sociotherapy, NYC, 1969-1982.
• Training/Supervision (by Robert W. Siroka, Ph.D. and staff) during being: Co-director of Michael's Farm, Camp for Emotionally Disturbed Children, Liberty, N.Y., 1970-1972.
• 2009 to Present: Additional experiential training and understanding of emotional education and the process of emotional growth with Robert W. Siroka, Ph.D., and Daniel J. Wiener, Ph.D., RDT/BCT.
• Assistant Director for Drug Abuse Education at the Addiction Services Agency, Spring 1969.

+Post Doctoral Course Work:

• ENVISION workshop: "Client Tendencies to Self-Harm and Suicide Ideation" July 2024
• "History/Evaluation of Behavior Therapy", Study Group at the Institute for Retired Professionals, New School for Social Research, NYC, Summer, 2016.
• "Memoirs" [Writing one's life-emotional history] Study Group at the Institute for Retired Professionals, New School for Social Research, NYC, Spring, 2016.
• "The Evolution of Culture" Study Group at The Institute for Retired Professionals, New School for Social Research, NYC, Spring, 2015.
• "Moral Dilemmas" Study Group at The Institute for Retired Professionals, New School for Social Research, NYC, Spring, 2015.
• "The Archeology of Mind; The Evolution of Emotions" Study Group at The Institute for Retired Professionals, New School for Social Research, NYC, Fall, 2014.
• "Cross Cultural Psychology", Study Group at the Institute for Retired Professionals, New School for Social Research, NYC, Spring, 2014.
• "Freud and Jung, Part I", Study Group at the Institute for Retired Professionals, New School for Social Research, NYC, Fall, 2012.
• "Evolutionary Psychology", Study Group at the Institute for Retired Professionals, New School for Social Research, NYC, Fall, 2013
• "The Aging Challenge", Study Group at the Institute for Retired Professionals, New School for Social Research, NYC, Fall, 2013

His work in the fields of emotional-social education is as follows:

• Taught: "Emotional Intelligence" at Study Group of the Institute for Retired Professionals, New School for Social Research, NYC, Spring, 2016.
• Public School Teacher: English, Social Studies, Leader of Student Support Group, NYC, during 1966-1970. College Professor of Education, Lehman, C.U.N.Y., 1970 - 2000: supervising student teachers; teaching: educational psychology, human relations, classroom management, the helping relationship, drug abuse prevention, group dynamics, methods for sex education, and empathy skills.
• Developed exit-competencies criteria for awarding credit for affective and experiential education, circa 1985-87.
• "Correcting: Feeding the Wrong Hole", Presentation for the Newport Neighborhood Association, April 7, 2011.
• Consultant to educators at Classroom Management Online
• Trauma Counselor and Group Leader for Magellan Services and the Environmental Protection Agency at: Ikon Office Solutions; Corner Stone Research; Insight Communications; Petry Media Corp. in September 2001 and September 2002.

• Individual and Group Therapist for New York Association for Psychotherapy Services, 1982 to 1990 with Dr. Daniel Wiener.
• Coordinator, Arrow Park Human Services Conference for New York Association for Psychotherapy Services, Monroe, New York, May 13-15, 1983.
• Staff trainer, Storefront, Drug Abuse Prevention Shelter, Sarasota, Florida; "The Addictive Personality," June 12, 1981.
• Staff trainer for North Essex Drug Action Council, Montclair, New Jersey, May 5, 1980; psychodrama techniques applied to drug abuse prevention.
• Staff trainer and Group supervisor of seminar for helping professionals in support services for public schools, New York City, September 1975-June 1980.
• Coordinator of Conference for Human Services, Monroe, New York, May 18-20, 1979.
• Co-Coordinator of  Local Chapter of Association for Humanistic Psychology, Eastern Regional Conference on Humanistic Education, November 8-9, 1975.
• Co-director and Staff Trainer, Michael's Farm, Camp for Emotionally Disturbed Children, Liberty, N.Y., 1970-1972.
• Trained therapists and counselors in application of psychodramatic methods to clinical practice, 1975 and 1979.
• Director of the Center for Personalized Instruction at The Institute for Sociotherapy; provided educational services for children via welfare agencies, 1972-1974.
• Staff trainer for alternative settings for adolescents for Massachusetts Residential Programs, January 27-29, 1976 (involved 110 administrators selected statewide).
• Trainer of wardens and school superintendents at the New Jersey Statewide Conference for Corrections for Adolescents under the Federal Law Enforcement Assistance Act, June 3 and 4, 1975 (involved over 350 selected staff and personnel statewide).
• Consultant to Brooklyn Hospital's Physician's Assistants Program, April-July, 1978; program, every Friday.
• Staff trainer for Elizabeth Seton Academy, Yonkers, New York, November 4, December 9 and 19, 1977; handling and preventing disruptive behavior.
• Staff trainer for North Essex Drug Action Council, Montclair, New Jersey, December 2, 1977; action methods for helping professionals working in drug abuse prevention.
• Consultant and trainer for "Vision in Action" (alternative settings in corrections for adolescents), Boston, Mass., all day seminar, April 4, 1976.
• Tutor for Department of Social Services for Foster Children, 1969-1970.
• Conference Leader: Bronx Community College for Roosevelt High School: "Alcohol and Drug Education for Students," Spring 1970.
• Instructor, Human Relations Courses, Board of Education, NYC 1967-1969.
• Assistant Director, Addiction Services Agency, Drug Prevention Program, NYC, Spring, 1969.
• Organizer of Group Guidance Class and published an article about this work with truant students at DeWitt Clinton High School, Fall 1967, Spring 1968.
• Director of small summer day camp near Peekskill, N.Y., 1966-1969.

Speeches and professional presentations at these local and national conferences:

• "Women Now the More Capable of our Species," at Aberdeen-Turnberry Women's Organization, Florida, November 12, 2024.
• "What is Life-Coaching? History, Methods, Limits", Presentation/Lecture at the Columbia University Seminars on Innovation in Education and Ethics, Moral Education, and Society, October 17, 2016.
• "Counseling via a 'Death Perspective,'" Canadian Journal of Counseling, vol. 20, no. 4, Fall 1986, pp. 269-276.
• "Using Poetry as Therapy," Banner Lodge Connecticut Health Conference, June 28-29, 1986.
• "Counseling via a Death Perspective," at the National Forum for Death Education and Counseling, Philadelphia, April 12, 1985.

• "Tangible Therapy, and Concretization of Affect," American Society for Group Psychotherapy and Psychodrama, New York City, April 14, 1983.
• "Help for Our Work: Psychodrama Methods," Area Trainers Meeting of the New York Association for Humanistic Psychology, New York City, May 10, 1981.
• "Help for Our Work," Association for Humanistic Psychology Annual Conference, Philadelphia, May 16, 1981.
• "Help for Our Work," American Society for Group Psychotherapy and Psychodrama Annual Conference, April 5, 1981.
• "Help for the Helping Professional," Association for Humanistic Psychology Annual Conference, Atlantic City, May 18, 1980.
• "Help for the Helping Professional," American Society for Group Psychotherapy and Psychodrama Annual Conference, New York City, April 19, 1980.
• "Training in Abuse Education and Group Supervision," Association for Humanistic Psychology, Philadelphia Chapter, May 5, 1979.
• "Help for the Helpers," Association for Humanistic Psychology, Eastern Regional Conference, April 1, 1978.
• "Group Supervision for Helpers," American Society for Group Psychotherapy and Psychodrama, New York City, April 8, 1978.
• "Toward Human Relations Education," Passaic, New Jersey's Annual Urban Education Conference, New Jersey, November 5, 1973.

Publications in education, guidance, counseling, and emotional education

Books

• You and Me: Getting Under Limbo Bars; A Memoir
• Preventing Disruptive Behavior in Colleges; A Campus and Classroom Management Handbook for Higher Education; Rowman and Littlefield, 2010.
• Unlike Almost Everything Else in the Universe; existential poetry, self-published with AuthorHouse, Bloomington, Indiana, 2007.

• Preventing Classroom Discipline Problems; DVD training video, Pro-Education Media, 2001.
• Preventing Classroom Discipline Problems; A Classroom Management Handbook, Rowman and Littlefield, 2000, 3rd Edition.

Articles

• "Blocks to Assertiveness," Networking: New York City Guidance Newsletter, March 1987.
• "Comparing and Using Psychodrama with Family Therapy: Some Cautions," Journal of Group Psychotherapy and Psychodrama (Co-author: Dr. Daniel Wiener), vol. 37, no. 4, Winter 1984, pp. 143-156.
• "Essential Skills that Make or Break On-the-Job Survival and Promotion," Canadian Vocational Journal, vol. 20, no. 1, May 1984, pp. 22-23.
• "Training for On-the-Job Survival and Promotion: An Inductive Co-op Seminar," The National Journal of Cooperative Education, vol. 21, no. 1, Fall 1984, pp. 65-69.
• "A Methodology for Existential Psychotherapy," Journal of Group Psychotherapy and Psychodrama, vol. 35, no. 2 (Washington, D.C.), Summer 1982, pp. 70-82.
• "A Methodology for Existential Psychotherapy," republished in: Proceedings of the Congress of International Freudian Movement on Psychoanalysis, Milan, Italy, Nov. 1982.
• "Training Staff in Juvenile Detention," Correction Training Personnel, vol. 2, no. 1, February 1977, pp. 1-2.
• "Group Guidance in High School," High Points in New York City Schools, January 1970, pp. 20, 23, 32.
• "Sensitivity Training or Children Playing with Matches?" Journal of Applied Behavioral Sciences vol. 6, 1970, pp. 378-379.

Helped to design and taught these courses:

• "Human Relations", September 1970 to May 1984.
• "Group Dynamics", September 1975 to May 1980.
• "Educational Psychology", September 1970 to May 1999.
• "Preventing Discipline Problems", September 1975 to May 1999.
• "Sex Education and Family Values," Spring 1979.
• "Alcohol, Tobacco and Drugs", August 1977 – 1981 (with Prof. A. Patti).
• "Social Processes in the World of Work," Fall 1984.

He is also a national consultant on classroom management and has been teaching Classroom Management Online since September 2000. His book and training video on this subject are used in many school districts across the United States and in over fifteen countries internationally.

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